The Letting Go Of Grief

Snow is falling in the middle of April. The heavy  snowflakes swirl to the earth leaving the ground damp with moisture. Although we may not see flakes layered on the ground, their melt remains. So, it is with our grief. While the onslaught of our grief may no longer be visible, the residue remains. We may feel anger, our body may vibrate with hurt, an emptiness may fill our being — all echoes of grief. 

It is said that “time heals all wounds,” but unless we are able to address the symptoms of grief, the abscess deep in the core of our being remains. We can deny what we are thinking and feeling until we reach a crisis point — our body decides that we must lance the spiritual abscess. When our body speaks, we must attend to the physical symptoms. In order to return to wholeness, read more…

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Neural Synchrony™ facilitator, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa assists clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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Rebel with a Cause: Be the Change

Be the change. How many times have I said that? Only slightly more than I have heard it said. Lately I have been wondering about the energy behind my pronouncement. Not so much what it means, but what propels my inner change agent. What commits me to becoming the change that I want to see in the world? And, how do I live that change?

A change agent is a wind rider, a walker between worlds, a rebel with a cause. They live in the mundane while alert to the thermals of possibility. With courage and curious daring, they jump into the current and ride it to a place of hopes and dreams realized. They blaze a trail for us to follow; a change agent isn’t afraid to step into an uncertain world. They are prepared to discover, and use, the stuff of transformation. 

Because, really, isn’t transformation to a better way the change that all of us want to see? Sometimes we forget that change… read more 

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Neural Synchrony™ facilitator, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa assists clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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i believe

I believe in my hopes and dreams, my sorrows  and griefs. I believe that though the slushy grip of winter won’t let go, that spring is burrowing upward from the mud slick earth. I believe that as thunder, lightning, and winds rumble through the topsy turvy spring, that there is purpose in the low times.

I believe that sometimes bad things happen to good people. No harm, no foul. Sometimes you’ve got to experience the fall before you can rise. I believe that it is okay to get lost for a bit in the maelstrom of uncertainty. I believe that, no matter what, some how, some way, I will find the strength and courage to rise again.

I believe that good things happen to bad people because inside each of us is at least a little bad. Read more…

 

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Neural Synchrony™ facilitator, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa assists clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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Shifting from Force to Power

 Anger insidiously sneaks up on us. Bam! The force of our anger results in the war cry of reaction. Lines of communication disintegrate.

Yet, at other times, we are aware of anger seeping into the cracks of our being. Drip by indignant drip it fills a soul parched by fear. In those moments of awareness, before the flashpoint of reaction, we choose not to allow the force of anger to wreak havoc on our self. Instead, we use the power of anger to respond with lovingkindness.

I spent many decades believing the fallacy that anger… (read more)

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Neural Synchrony™ facilitator, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa assists clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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Be the Light: The Spark of Change is Within

Our light reflects off a shiny thing. We are so enamored by the brightness that we forsake our journey. We detour — we need to hold the shiny thing, to enjoy its brightness, to be with the newness. But, as with all shiny things, the novelty wears off soon enough. Then we find in a mad dash to the next newest, shiniest bling. Instead of continuing on a journey of purpose, we take detour after detour grabbing onto illusion after illusion.

Chasing shining things is a mindless quest to find the perfect job… (read more)

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Neural Synchrony™ facilitator, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa assists clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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Snow Storm vs. Spring’s Green

Just when I thought Spring had arrived, it started to snow. Wasn’t it just yesterday that I turned my face to the sun and felt Spring’s gentle breeze soothe the burn from my cheeks? Then, out of nowhere, the snow started to fall obliterating Spring’s promise.

I chuckled without joy for life is like that. We are so close to a new beginning, a new flowering in our life, that we cannot help but be disappointed in the setback brought on by a snowstorm. At first, we might hunker down watching the huge, wet flakes coat the world. We might even venture into the snow and allow our self to be coated in the wet messiness. But, the snow obliterates the promise of Spring.  And, it is difficult to get past the worry of yet another setback.

Eventually we grab our snow shovel and begin to dig our self out. We can move the snow in one of two ways: we can power through the snow totally focused on completing the task or we can mindfully, shovel by shovel, clear our path while enjoying those moments of messy snow removal.

How do you meet the challenge of an unexpected snowfall? Me? Well, at first I am overwhelmed by the storm that disrupts my careful planning. But, then, that little voice inside me suggests that what I view as a calamity is just a minor irritation. Read more…

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Neural Synchrony™ facilitator, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa assists clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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Contemplation in Action: The Lion & The Lamb

The lamb romps playfully near the fierce lion. The lamb knows that she is incomplete without lion’s energy. Within each of us is the ready energy of a lion and the calm presence of the lamb. When they collaborate within us, we are our best, truest self — a person with a compassionate heart and an expanding nonviolent soul.

In this uncertain world it is easy to pounce without thought and retreat over and over again until we are exhausted in our body, mind, spirit, and heart. It is not always easy to combine the discernment of the lamb and the energy of the lion to power an intentional retreat and a compassionate response. When lion and lamb collaborate, read more

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Neural Synchrony™ facilitator, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa assists clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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The Sun Is Shining…

The sun is shining rippling across pools of water. Gone are the downpours that beat relentlessly on the sodden ground. I rescue an earthworm that had taken refuge on the wet concrete and rejoiced that, through the sun’s rays, the ground once again became a safe haven for the earthworm.

The sun is shining providing sustenance for plants rising from the earth. The ground transforms from shades of crisp brown to variegated green. I see within the aftereffects of this flood the arrival of spring — not according to the calendar but in the smells, sounds, and sights of earth.

The sun is shining bringing… read more  

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Neural Synchrony™ facilitator, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa assists clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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Hold ‘Em or Fold ‘Em: To Persist Or Not


I am a recovering habitual persister. (A habitual persister is a person who continues on the same course convinced if they try something different, that the end result will change.) Instead of staying on the same path, I have begun to consciously see my life as full of possibilities waiting to be experienced. With this perspective it is easier to let go situations that I cannot change no matter how much I persist.

As I write this, lyrics from The Gambler rise to the surface of my mind — “You got to know when to hold ‘em, know when to fold ‘em, know when to walk away, know when to run.” And, I think that maybe I don’t know that I have been living within the same tired parameters that lead me to persist instead of renewing my life.

Looking back, I name many creative ways that I have persisted in the face of tough odds — read more

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Neural Synchrony™ facilitator, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa assists clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

The Good Fight

The world is a frenetically energetic, wildly daring place. As we glide from grain to chaotic grain, we get stuck in the knots of drama. Forgetting to breathe, we miss the opportunities within the grain — the places where we foster peace.

Late last week, I found myself once again preparing to “fight the good fight.” Sanding down the uneven boards in the world floor even when I do not have the right tools or the am not even invited into the house with buckled floors. I forget that I have no control over the outcome of much of what impacts me. Instead of being a change agent, I get twisted in the drama. My fight is less about good and more about being reactionary.

Fighting a good fight tears… read more…

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Neural Synchrony™ facilitator, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa assists clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.