Create Your 2018 Intent: Love, Joy, & Hope

The days shorten. We edge closer to the end of the year. There is more darkness than light. It is that time of the year when we wake to a darkened window and drive home with our lights on. We are in the dark, barren time of the year.

Yet, in the darkness of winter are celebrations of light. We share love, joy, and hope with loved ones, friends, coworkers, and even strangers. Our bodies crave the light that our mind, spirit, and heart know — within the darkness are opportunities to live fully. We have only to intentionally experience love, joy, and hope.

Perhaps we are not even (read more…)

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Neural Synchrony™ facilitator, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa offers Neural Synchrony™ sessions to assist clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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Traversing the Web of All with Our Inner Mystic

I had my first mystical experience at the age of 30 months. As I chanted during a Catholic Latin Mass, I was one with the Sacred, the presiding priest, and every person in the pew. I remember feeling the embrace of Divine as I intoned with the priest and answered with the congregation. I felt the melody of divine love that filled with wonder and awe. It wasn’t until my sister elbowed me that I came crashing back into the mundane.

You see, at 30 months, I did not realize that this experience was out of the ordinary. I did not know that mystics were the few in number who lived in communion with the Sacred and regularly experienced wonder and awe. I didn’t understand that my experience of communion — unity with all — was out of the ordinary. A somatic memory of this event was lodged into my being. I promptly forgot about this experience only to have it resurface decades later. Read more…

 

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Compassion Consultant, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa offers Neural Synchrony™ sessions to assist clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations. 

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In Armor’s Chink: The Dance of Beauty & Joy

I woke up to the world dancing with beauty. Before my eyes beauty stumbled as sorrow cut into the dance. But, beauty was not long without a partner. The melody of joy twined with the broken pieces of beauty. As joy and beauty danced, they wove a peace that no winds of discord could tear. This beauty renewed was woven with vulnerability and honesty.

This Fall I took on a part time gig that continues to teach me a lot about external and internal beauty. We create so much armor to get us through the day. Maybe it is the armor of attitude. Perhaps it is carefully chosen clothing and meticulously applied cosmetics.This armor is any way that we project an illusion that hides our true self from the world. Whatever it is, this armor is the face, authentic and illusory, that we share with the world.  Read more…

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Compassion Consultant, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa offers Neural Synchrony™ sessions to assist clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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Compassion’s Challenge: I Curiously Dare You.

Have you every noticed on a cloudy day how the colors around you stand out against the dreariness? Although you see the colors as a stark contrast to the gloom, they do not touch your soul. The gloom seeps into everything dimming your perception. In the gloom induced fatigue, even the simplest acts of compassion seem out of reach.

When the sun bursts through the clouds, it ignites the essence of those same colors. The world brightens. It becomes effervescent. We, and the world, are permeated with laughter, joy, and happiness. We dance to an encouraging rhythm. Boosted by the light, acting compassionately feels so right, is so easy, in those moments. We act upon our intent to be compassionate without conscious thought.

Moving intentionally to the the rhythm of compassion… (read more…)

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Compassion Consultant, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa offers Neural Synchrony™ sessions to assist clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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Rocking in a Flood of Misunderstanding: Empathy & Civility

Do you ever feel like an ark rocking in a flood of misunderstanding? It seems that we have lost our ability to communicate with each other. We talk over one another or wait until the other stops talking only to share our judgments and assumptions. Instead of listening to understand, we listen to interject.

Empathy is lost in the flood waters made murky by judgments and assumptions — we no longer look at a person as someone who is real — who lives a life of joy and challenge. Rather, we see the person as an object upon which we heap our judgments and assumptions. Without empathy we provide solutions and judgmental proclamations that have little to do with what is happening to the other and everything to do about our interpretation of their situation. So assured that we know the answer, we have lost our ability to be civil.

I do not believe that our empathetic heart is lost. Read more…

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Compassion Consultant, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa offers Neural Synchrony™ sessions to assist clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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From Yes To No: Compassionate Response

I am no longer a “yes” (wo)man. You know, the person who will do anything for everyone. I am no longer the first volunteer first or am readily drafted without thought of how I might be negatively impacted. What happened? I realized how debilitating saying yes when I should have said no can be.

Once I acknowledged the suffering that I was inadvertently causing in myself, I reflected upon what it meant to be compassionate. While saying no instead of yes seems counterintuitive to being compassionate, I learned that saying “no” was the most powerful act of self compassion.

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Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Compassion Consultant, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa offers Neural Synchrony™ sessions to assist clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa  for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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Compassion is popping up everywhere. Or, maybe I should say using compassion as a justification for actions that bring harm is growing like kudzu. As the ranks of the compassion movement swell, so does the number of people who do not understand that just because you say something is compassionate doesn’t mean it is. Instead of embracing the intent to alleviate suffering, compassion has become a defense for suspect behavior.

Being an emissary of compassion is not easy. Joining the compassion movement is the beginning of a life long commitment to being compassion. It is a springboard for creating a way of living from a compassionate heart. When compassion becomes our lived experience, we are increasingly more aware of suffering and are imbued with the desire to alleviate it. Embracing this way, we can no longer lie to our self or others about how our motives and agendas inform our intent.

When our intent to be compassionate…read more

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Compassion Consultant, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa offers Neural Synchrony™ sessions to assist clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.

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Building a Compassion Bridge with Your Intent & Action

Build a bridge across uncertainty by digging into what you believe and what I believe without judging or assuming. Let’s reach out with the intent to understand one another while honoring one another’s right to non-violently disagree.

Build a bridge across divisiveness by deeply anchoring into our humanness — those parts of us that we hold in common and that are powered by compassion. Let’s acknowledge our fears and judgments that stop us from being a welcoming presence of community.

Build a bridge across mistrust by changing the “I am out to get you” culture to an “I am listening to understand” one. Let’s withhold judgment, not defend our positions, and realize that maybe we aren’t 100% right and the other 100% wrong.

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Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Compassion Consultant, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa offers Neural Synchrony™ sessions to assist clients in navigating their life paths with intuition.  Contact Vanessa.

Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action.

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How to Create a Cable of Peace: Being Compassion

I often wake around 3:38 a.m. On Monday morning I grabbed my phone to see the time (3:38 a.m.) and saw a horrific ABC news notification — 12 people gunned down in Las Vegas. Before I left the house at 6:30 a.m. the number had climbed to over 20 people. By the time the number reached 50+ victims, I was in empathy overload. I was paralyzed and unable to access my inner peace. I was overwhelmed by my sorrow-filled disbelief and the grief that shattered many connections in the peace cable of the collective. I felt the individual strands shred and the weave of the collective peace cable loosen as many of us experience empathy overload.

Later, after the pressure of my empathy overload was relieved, I reflected on both the violence perpetrated and my reaction to it. It was humbling, and a bit embarrassing, how unaware I was  — how caught I became in the escalating chaotic uncertainty. By anchoring in the moment, I was able to feel how the upheaval obscured, and in some cases, severed fragile connections to peace.  Read more…

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Compassion Consultant, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa offers Neural Synchrony™ sessions to assist clients in navigating their life paths with intuition.  Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com

Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action.

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Living Compassionately by Filling the Potholes

I am a recovering fixer. You know, that person who jumps in to fill the potholes of another’s suffering. Unfortunately as I fixer, I am not always good at choosing the best materials for filling the potholes of another person.

Being in recovery means that I acknowledge my feelings of empathy while not allowing them to overwhelm me. I no longer get stuck in the fear-heavy emotions that rage at me. Instead I am aware of the angst, the suffering in those who surround me. I recognize how I get triggered.

 

Are you a recovering fixer? Read more about moving from fixing to being compassion’s presence.

 

Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Mindful Coach, Compassion Consultant, Professional Speaker, and Author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Vanessa offers Neural Synchrony™ sessions to assist clients in navigating their life paths with intuition.  Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com

Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action.

Website / LinkedIn Profile / Facebook / Twitter: @fyrserpent / ©2017

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